Tag Archives: pictures

Meaning Through Photo Memories


Me at my old desk and area in the office. I still remember the days when you could smoke in here and it was just a blue haze...glad thos days are gone!

Me at my old desk and area in the office. I still remember the days when you could smoke in here and it was just a blue haze…glad thos days are gone!

Today I go back to the Erie County Home to load up the items I purchased at the recent Auction in the facility. It should prove to be interesting because by now many of the items that were in the facility and gave it character are gone. I’ll try to get some images of the skeleton, but for now I’m remembering what was.

It goes without saying that us humans are amazing creatures…even if it is in our own minds. One of the unique aspects of us is our desire to capture images that convey meaning to the person doing the image. Typically the meaning for the individual is to have a souvineour or picture that they can use to remember where they were, what they did, who they met, who they love, etc.  Often it is their desire to use or share that image with a larger audience. They use it to provide color when they tell a story, brag about something, be a work of art, etc. One sad fact about most images is that after the individual(s) in it or who took it passes away the verbal story and rich emotional meaning of the image is lost forever.

We saw this at the Home in what used to be the patient property room. In these rooms there were still suitcases, boxes and items left in the rooms.  On top of one stack was the very large, framed wedding pictures of a couple in what appeared to be the 1950′s. They were aestetically beautiful but lacked the color and emotional meaning they would have imparted had they been family or someone we had known. Instead there was an emptiness…a sense of loss and despair we had thinking about how these items would probably be disposed of in the coming days.

Standing On skids in the dietary dry storeroom where I worked, played and even slept. What a great way to keep the weight off lifting cases and walking all day!

Standing On skids in the dietary dry storeroom where I worked, played and even slept. What a great way to keep the weight off lifting cases and walking all day!

Our consumer research work on digital imaging years earlier informed us not only of the reasons and joys we find in taking images but also in the sad fact that the vast majority get lost, destroyed or forgotten. All of our research participants expressed the saddness that is brought on when photos are lost. It is like “losing your memory” my boss and owner of a global company told me. He had the sad experience of thieves ransacking his house years prior to our study. No money or valuable were taken. However, the intruders had a more malicious intent and took the one thing they knew he couldn’t replace…pictures and video of his family.

Looking back at my 18 years or employment at the Home I realized I have no pictures of myself at the facility that I can think of. That is not to say there are none, but if there are they are only a few prints in boxes since those were the days before digital. Thanks to my wife I now have a few since she took some of me at the Erie County Home. What I put here are very meaningful and certainly bring back zillions of rich memories I thought I had lost. It helped me remember my ‘path’ to now. I gained a deeper appreciation of the people I worked with. The images also helped me understand ‘me’ more and share a bit more with my wife … and now you!

Me on 'my' Pallet jack. This was my friend and enemy. It saved my back but broke my foot! It sold for a couple hundred.

Me on ‘my’ Pallet jack. This was my friend and enemy. It saved my back but broke my foot! It sold for a couple hundred.

Moral of the story? Protect your images and pass the tradition on to your children.

No I'm not in it but it was the last picture I took and one that has been in my head for decades. I never knew if the artist intended it to be incomplete or not? This was in the basement West Building

No I’m not in it but it was the last picture I took and one that has been in my head for decades. I never knew if the artist intended it to be incomplete or not? This was in the basement West Building

Leave a Comment

Filed under My Experiences, Parenting

Inclusivity, Diversity, and Sensitivity…Oh My!


One of the things that I’ve striven for while writing this blog is inclusivity. While my own experience as a privileged white woman has probably bled through in my writing, I have always attempted not to make universal statements or assumptions about the people reading this blog. One of the ways in which I thought I had been most successful in bringing in other identities and “voices” was through my picture choices. I didn’t just feature stock photos of white children and families. I didn’t just feature boys or girls. I was inclusive. I was diverse. I was sensitive.

Occasionally uncomfortable Google searches (such as Down's Syndrome student) lead to great images such as this one of a dance class. (Image Credit:http://articles.dailypilot.com/2011-03-28/news/tn-dpt-0327-down1-20110328_1_dance-lessons-dance-classes-tennis-lessons)

But then yesterday, when I went on Google Images hunting for a picture of a little girl in a princess outfit, I came to a sudden and painful realization. I had been completely ignoring people with disabilities as I had been so focused on racial diversity. My Google searches of “Asian girl at computer” or “white boy at computer” suddenly seemed inadequate. Diversity and inclusivity are about so much more than race, gender, or any other visible characteristic, but I feel that including pictures that a greater majority of readers can then identify with is incredibly important, especially as this blog focuses on education.

At Tutor Doctor WNY, our students are from many different backgrounds. We have gifted students and special needs students, students from rural parts of Genesee County and the urban centers of Rochester and Buffalo. Because our students are diverse and are continually showing us the strength of diversity, we pledge a continuing commitment to inclusivity, diversity, and sensitivity on this blog. If there are any ways that we can improve our performance in this area, please feel free to let us know your concerns or suggestions.

1 Comment

Filed under Academic Advice, My Experiences

The Baby Book


One of my most treasured possessions is the baby book my parents kept for my first three years. Seeing my mom and dad’s handwriting as they write about teething and tantrums and first words is strangely compelling. These are moments in my life that I can’t remember, but having my parent’s memories is better in some ways. My baby book was highly structured when my parents bought it, and they filled out the various sections about the family tree, first words, first steps, and first baths religiously. They put in a few mementos, such as my baby bracelet and a copy of my first check (which I received for being a Fisher Price model), and a few pictures.

In a digital age, I see people getting further away from these sorts of tangible mementos. Mommy bloggers (or daddy bloggers) faithfully keep track of daily events in their children’s lives. These digital parents put up pictures on a near-daily basis. I’m not sure how this sort of baby booking will work out in the future. Will these websites eventually vanish in to cyberspace, leaving those children without evidence that they were once babies? Digital pictures cause me similar concern. What happens when the computer crashes and the external hard drive gets lost? This isn’t my attempt to be old fashioned, but practical. Is there something lost when all memories are made digital?

So why not take some time in the coming months to make a hard copy of your child’s early years? There are plenty of online resources that can help you make a quality book. One great website is Pinhole Press. They not only offer baby photo books, but also a great Book of Faces that can help bring together a portrait of a family for a child.

Do you have a baby book from your childhood? Do you keep one for your child? What are your suggestions for preserving memories?

Leave a Comment

Filed under My Experiences